I’m about to head out for work and this is what I’m wearing. What I do is more fun than “work” but I do get paid for it, so it counts. I teach natural childbirth and breastfeeding classes with the Bradley Method two evenings a week. I’ve been teaching for five years and it is such a blessing to work with families as they prepare for their little one’s arrival. It’s also great anxiety medication for me since I actually get to talk to people who want to hear what I have to say. 😛 (The medical community around here is highly interventive and when I hear women talking about the things they are told, I tend to jump out of my skin.) Wearing a skirt while teaching childbirth should be interesting in the next few weeks when I’m demonstrating squatting and other lovely birthing positions. I’ll be wearing a loooong flowy skirt that day I’m sure!
Disclosure moment- today is the first day that I feel a bit odd about wearing a skirt. It has almost been a full week now and I’m definitely feeling out of my comfort-zone. Not because I look bad or anything, in fact I feel quite pretty!, but because I’m missing my ol’ standby blue jeans. But I’m doing this not because I think there is anything inherently wrong about wearing pants, but more to explore the question of why exclusive feminine dress (outside of Sunday) feels wrong?
I feel that our culture has simultaneously suppressed and exploited femininity.
While the culture gets busy with encouraging women to be more socially “man-like” than ever, it comes in and smacks us over the head with exploitative beauty messages that no woman can ever live up to. Here is a great article about not photoshopping yourself out of reality.
So where does this leave most women? Somewhere in a vast landscape she cannot reach nor see. She is not strengthened in her role as a woman, wife, mother, friend… and her beauty is never validated as her own, but rather she go through means of vast manipulation.
I have already deepened and changed my life by fully accepting my role as wife and mother and I WISH I had learned some better homemaking skills to be prepared for this amazing responsibility! Fortunately I have blogs to read to learn from wise women all over the country.
And now, I want to reflect my femininity by expressing that in feminine dress. However, I fully reject society’s female exploitation and objectification (so much so I can barely stand to watch tv anymore because what I see is so often offensive.) As women, we can show our femininity by employing modesty (which can be fashionable modesty like Tiffany and Tricia) and using the cut/color of fabric to flatter (and therefore praise!) our God-given features.
I think I feel weird right now because I’m just not used to expressing my femininity this way. Just like I felt weird when I first stopped working to stay at home with my daughter and wasn’t earning a paycheck anymore.
Have a wonderful day!