Note: This isn’t really about skirts specifically. Just general thoughts about change.
When envisioning the process of making positive changes in life, I think most of us believe that the process will feel good. There might be some hard work, but seeing as how there is that whole word ‘positive’ in the term “positive change”, I think that we expect a certain “feel good” gratification that comes from our efforts.
The “feel good” gratification is there, but what there is MORE is a feeling of weirdness. And in the beginning, I’d say it’s about 80% weirdness.
You feel weird because you are totally out of your element and separated from your personal identity.
My husband and I were not raised in Christian families, and yet I knew I wanted my children to grow up knowing God and Jesus and have religion in their lives. When we began going to church there was consistent weirdness especially because we didn’t know anything about the gospel or church structure. It felt a bit like playing house. When we started praying before meals, we felt weird. When we told the family we would be going to church on Christmas Eve we felt weird. When we started praying in front of extended family before meals we felt really weird (and still do).
Almost any amount of positive change will make you feel a little weird because not only are you forging a new identity for yourself, but you’re also displaying a new identity to those you know and love.
Also, our habits, be they good or bad, create our personal identities. In order to step forward into something more positive, there is an active letting go of an old, familiar and likely fond identity. When I wrote yesterday about the fact that I’m cleaning my house much better these days, this is all a good thing, but there is definitely a letting go of that person I’ve always been who has struggled so much with housekeeping and even found a certain camaraderie with others because of it. This is especially true if what you’re trying to change was a common part of your family life and forged a connection to those you love. Change means letting go of that aspect of connection, and it can feel a bit sad!
The good news is that eventually the ‘positive’ part of “positive change” starts to definitely take over if you allow it. Just know the weirdness will be there and move past it anyways.
Today’s skirt. It’s suddenly super hot around here! I guess summer was waiting for fall to start showing itself.
Have a wonderful day!