I’ve been meaning to comment on a comment Rachel left me a long time ago!!
“I guess what I was asking is your personal take on how it makes you feel to transfer your style from casual with jeans to casual with a skirt. For me, I didn’t want to go too far to dressy and lose the ease I felt in my clothes yet wanted to project a more feminine image for the sake of my family. I struggled for a while with going too formal, then too matronly. I’ve only just hit the perfect note where I feel feminine and yet casually comfortable. Have you found that yet do you think?”
Such a great question!
Yes hitting that right note can be hard sometimes. Skirts and dresses do involve a strange interplay between potentially too dressy, too matronly, or too sexy. I think that is one of the reasons why women don’t wear them much. Because our society has become so casual, wearing a skirt can automatically make you feel more “dressed up” than you’re accustomed to. And if you “dress down” your skirt too much or depending on the length and material, shoes etc…you can end up in a matronly mode. So, what to do?
Well, for me the first step was embracing this philosophy:
It’s ok to be a little bit dressy
See how I’m dressed in the last Pretty, Happy, Funny, Real? That was pretty much my everyday garb for years. And I STILL like to dress that way too. I do like being casual, but I got really bored with seeing myself that way every single day. I’m really glad I got out of that rut and have found a way to express and enjoy my femininity and set a good example of feminine dress for my daughters (and son too actually).
On the days I’m wearing a skirt or dress, I’m often dressed in something nice-enough to wear to church. What you see me posting day-to-day was formerly my “Sunday best”. And even now, I don’t dress any nicer most Sundays than I do on any other day. But wearing a skirt as an everyday item does mean that I’m going to the grocery store, to preschool, or to the park often looking a little more dressed up than anyone else. (Although I will say my park friends always look a little dressy too!)
And I’ve decided that’s ok.
I’ve also embraced the philosophy that:
It’s ok to look a little bit matronly sometimes
In certain long skirts I definitely think I’m projecting a conservative religious vibe. And while I’m not comfortable projecting that image every single day, I’ve decided I don’t mind if I look that way or people think that about me. The truth is, I love God, I am religious (or at least growing) and I don’t mind wearing clothing that gives people that idea.
All that said, I do really like when I hit that right note. Cute and comfortable. Even though it is likely a dressier note than it would be otherwise.
If I’m in a mood to be truly casual, then I just wear jeans.
Have a wonderful day!